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'yorz
898231.  Mon Apr 02, 2012 5:35 am Reply with quote

But if it's such good fun with this particular person that you care about, why would you let it depend on whether this person 'asks you out' (to follow the analogy)?
And what does age have to do with it? It's more about knowing people you feel comfortable enough with and are attracted to, to want to go to town.

I am lucky enough to know several people I deeply care about, but there's no incentive to contemplate having sex with them only because there's so little of it happening.

Compromise? I am a bit older than you (I think), but am definitely still susceptible to electric sparks and, frankly, need to feel sparks in order to enjoy it. It's part of my make up. Just 'doing' it because the occasion arises I cannot, unless there is this care/fondness plus electrical charge. This prerequisite does water down the opportunities to indulge, but that's the way I am.

Rereading this, I think I may come over as moralising, which is absolutely not my intention. I just try to convey how I function.

 
filofax
898258.  Mon Apr 02, 2012 6:41 am Reply with quote

For me it's definitely age dependent - the spark was much more lively a few years back!!! I don't know for sure, but I think that a gradual loss of libido to some extent is pretty common. Once over the boiling heat of adolescence, sex loses that urgency.

And, yup, it is really good fun to 'go to town' with my partner, but I have become exceedingly lazy, and the spark just doesn't always ignite spontaneously any more. Once kindled, however, it burns just a brightly as ever, and then I feel stupid for not doing it more often.

The above applies to going into town both in the literal and metaphorical sense, and is pretty much down to laziness.

 
Sadurian Mike
898311.  Mon Apr 02, 2012 8:47 am Reply with quote

filofax wrote:
Once over the boiling heat of adolescence, sex loses that urgency.


It does? When?

 
'yorz
898314.  Mon Apr 02, 2012 8:50 am Reply with quote

Ah. There you are! :P

 

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